Before we begin... I was photographing some friends this week who were engaged in some friendly, playful kink in celebration of one of their milestone sobriety birthdays. One of them was wearing a horse bit chest harness, and was talking about a friend of theirs who is an equestrian. They

"How do you ever stop feeling like a fake. It made sense when I was in my 20s, but I'm rapidly approaching 40 and still always feel like I'm in the faking it stage." — Anonymous I can't answer that on a clinical

Taking a quick break from reading Georges “the sexual channels are also the body’s sewers” Bataille’s Eroticism: Death and Sensuality (brag) to peruse 404 Media. We love 404 in this house. Co-founder Sam Cole has been on You Are Good (discussing The Fifth Element!) and contributor Noelle

Thank you so much for subscribing to It Can Only Get Stranger. I am still thinking about how format will work over the course of a week, but I am pretty sure I will put out one weekly roundup of posts and other points of interests that will get sent

“I’m almost 47 and learning to play music. It does not come naturally to me. I once hummed what I thought was 'Black Dog' but my husband sys sounded like the Munster’s theme song. I feel silly. Will it eventually make sense?” — Anonymous I really love

I think a lot about how America was born of a death cult. And about how shame (or should I say unresolved shame) is at the core of every Big Weird Thing about this country. And how our obsession with punishment is—in addition to being rooted in gleeful racism,

Creeps all the way down. From the Washington Post earlier this year: "Authorities have charged or accused at least 50 law-enforcement officers of using license-plate readers for unauthorized purposes, including to stalk women without their knowledge or consent, a Post analysis of police and court records found.

I'm watching E.T. right now, probably for the second time this year. The last time was when we covered it for an episode of You Are Good: A Feelings Podcast About Movies. You know about how E.T. is horny for Elliott’s mom, right?  In the

So anyway... I have been putting off making a podcast called Psychosexuality Today for a long, long time. At first this was largely due to the seemingly out of reach promise of the title Psychosexuality Today, which I thought of before anything else. I can't possibly, at this